In a world where people can be unsure whether or not they ever found the grounds to terminate a relationhship, some of us leave things unsaid in the event we wish to reenter someone's life. IN relaity the best way is to exit in a way that a re-entrance would be accepted. When you just dissappear you stir up so many emotions that the you return probably will be received with a skeptical heart.
“If you can talk about it, you can fix it.”
Healthy relationship typically have one common ingredient, good communications. Inspite of this one fact we seem to run for the hills when comes to having hard, uncomfortable conversations. The conversations that are the hardest tend to yield the most fruit, that's why they are so difficult. As always say, if you can talk about it, you can fix it. Fixing it isn't always reconciliation. Sometimes fixing it is walking away. Sometimes fixing it is new beginning, and sometimes fixing it places you in a better place than ever before. Talking about it is a conversation act. You have to seek to understand, and second to be understood. It has to be a two way street to gain insight on what really transpured. Talking about requires vulnerablity, you have to be willing to show who you are with your whole heart. Your whole heart sometimes seems like steep price, but almost always being seen, is worth it. You'll never know though if you don't sit down and try.
In a world full of Netflix & Chill situationships, and smash and pass antics, its often hard to understand why you haven't found your happily ever after with someone who is just as serious as you are. You're looking in all the wrong places. Eagles don't date chickens for a reason. Sure they are all birds, but the motivation and destiny of the Eagle is far above the chicken. It is just as rude of the eagle to expect the chicken to rise to its altitude as it is for the chicken to lower itself to the ground of the chicken. It's not working because you're seeking something in someone who can't give you what you're in search of. Instead of refining your search criteria, you're searching for a husband amongst a sea of men who are barely interested in being your boyfriend, let alone your husband.
